It’s Your Life! The 4 ½ Principles that Help You Take Charge.

“All human beings are completely responsible for their actions, even if they don’t want to be.”

You can only control your reactions to an event, not the circumstances leading up to those reactions. It’s all about perspective.
No one can “make” you “feel” or “do” anything. You always have a choice, no matter what. Often it’s a choice you don’t want to make, but the point is you always have a choice. Take charge of your life and accept this personal responsibility and you will start to feel a freedom like nothing else. It is a strange but true paradox. Take charge of your life by examining the 4 ½ Principles.

1. Get a goal in mind. This is simply to get you started. Give yourself permission to: change your mind, reassess, and make mistakes.

2. Take a good look at your life as it is now. How close to your ideal life are you? Reassess your life and decide what you need to include and exclude to get you closer to that ideal.

3. Get focused and discover your true priorities. When you have priorities, you can instantly improve your life by holding yourself accountable to NOT settling for good enough on those priorities. Not settling for good enough in life is a double edged sword. You also need to have your priorities straight so that you can know what to let go.It’s a matter of clarifying what you’re willing to compromise on and what you’re not willing to compromise on. You can not try to lie to yourself here. They must be true priorities of yours (and not someone else’s). No “should’s” allowed. I can’t think of any “shoulds” that lead to happiness.

4. Put yourself back on your list! Enough of settling for “good enough” when it comes to your priorities…or do you even know what your priorities are anymore? Is it time for you to reassess your life, dreams, passions and goals? I know that life gets busy. Spouses, kids, jobs, pets, and homes all require attention, but what about you? You’re not a lot of help to anyone if you’re resentful, tired and only living via obligations to other people!

4 ½ . You need to realize that you cannot depend on anyone else to make (and keep!) you happy. As soon as you think that happiness is found in an external source, you will be disappointed…which leads to unhappiness. It’s just too much responsibility to place on someone else. Happiness is found inside you, and only you.

“Everything you think, everything you do, has a consequence and you are going to experience the consequences of your actions in one way or another.” Wouldn’t it be better to create your own consequences rather that having them just happen?
You deserve to feel good. But feelings of peace and joy come from you and your reactions to the things around you, not on the things themselves.

 Kimberly Englot is an Authentic Life coach, the founder of Authentic Self and the creator of the Life Cleanse Mastermind. Kimberly’s passion is to work with women who are ready to identify and eliminate the obstacles that are keeping them from being happy. She works directly with her clients to develop strategies to boost their confidence, focus on their priorities and attract the life they deserve. For her free Authentic Life Toolkit, or more information check out her website .